Thursday, April 24, 2008

"Life is too short, blah, blah, blah..."

I'm going to be sappy and serious today. My blog. I get to be.

Anyhoo, isn't "life is too short" the biggest cliche? Isn't it the most overused cliche? Yes to both questions. BUT isn't that cliche also the most sobering one when we are faced with it?

Today, I will watch someone I love very much say goodbye to someone she loved very much. They hadn't spoken that much over the years. Doesn't matter. The only thing that matters today is that they ran out of time to love each other. I have a friend I hadn't spoken too in years. Ended horribly. Luckily, I had a chance to re-connect after over 20 years of silence. I'm not running out of time.

Look, I'm not saying seek out all your old friends and 12-step them, have them move into your life again, name your children after them... I'm saying to figure out who is really significant to you then, now and forever and tell them. Tell them enough so that if you never see them again, you're both at peace. You both know where things stand. One of the biggest questions people ask when someone checks out of the planet is: "You think they knew how I felt?" or "You think they knew I loved them?"

I like to call it being in completion. It means leaving no doubt in a persons mind that you loved them. I have people I haven't seen in 10 years that would know I loved them if I croaked tomorrow. I can fight with my sister and if I suddenly wasn't around, she'd know I loved her, even if the last thing we did was fight.

Who do you love? Who is a big part of the person you are today? Who contributed to your success? Who loved you when no one else did? Reach out. Tell them. Love them.

Aloha Pumehana, Eileen Anne Mata (Policar)... your life was seriously too least for your earth-bound friends.